Three Powerful Steps to Take Control of Your Life

by Nimia Acebes on December 14, 2009

The Dream Book has helped me achieve some amazing things – I’ve started a church, finishedmy first book, and bought a new home and a new car. This concept has opened the doors to my dreams and goals, and destroyed the attitude of mediocrity I’d had for a long time. The real story is not about what I’m accomplishing through The Dream Book, but rather what The Dream Book is accomplishing inside of me.” – Brian from Wisconsin

Psychological research shows that we tend to be happiest when we feel we have control over our lives. When we feel in control, we’re generally upbeat, optimistic and positive. On the other hand, when we feel like we’re being controlled by outside circumstances – work, marriage, childhood problems, etc. – we feel weak, angry, stressed out and negative.

Most people want to have more control over their lives, but they simply don’t know how to make it happen.  They feel pushed down the whitewater rapids of life without any paddle to steer them or a map to guide them. The solution is fairly straightforward…

Accept Responsibility

The first step to taking control of your life is to accept complete responsibility for where you’re at right now, how you got here, and where you’re going in the future. I can tell you with absolute certainty that you will never achieve lasting success if you don’t take responsibility for yourself and your life.

When I set those initial dreams and goals, I realized that no one was going to help me achieve them unless I helped myself first. If I was going to live my dreams, it had to start with me – my attitude, my thoughts, my actions. I finally understood at a gut level the old saying, “If it’s to be, it’s up to me.” I discovered this is the same type of realization that all successful people come to eventually. They reach a turning point in their lives when they recognize that they are the only ones who can take control of their future. Sadly, there are countless people who spend their lives feeling sorry for themselves, blaming others for where they’re at in life and what they don’t have. These people allow past events and circumstances to dictate today’s actions.

You must realize that you are the greatest determining factor in your future and that today’s actions equal tomorrow’s results. Where you’re going in life is a product of your attitude, beliefs, thoughts, actions and reactions to the challenges you face. The good news is that the more you accept responsibility for your life, the more powerful and confident you feel. Why? Because you’re in control! When you decide to stop blaming others and stop accepting your own excuses, you will see that you can create the future you desire.

Clarifying your dreams, setting goals and developing a plan to achieve them puts you in control. This process becomes the navigation system for your future. When you put your dreams and goals in writing, you immediately begin to steer your life in the direction you want to go. As you move toward your goals, you become more energized and more confident in yourself and your abilities. Every step you take increases your belief that you can achieve your goals and live your dreams.

Make A Commitment

If you’re serious about achieving all that you want to accomplish in life, you’re going to have to make a commitment – a commitment to yourself – to take the steps necessary to get there. Achieving your dreams and goals is simple, but it’s certainly not easy. It will take a lot of hard work, focus, dedication, discipline and persistence. It will require that you keep a positive attitude and that you grow personally and professionally.

And, it will involve some time…it takes time to properly define your dreams and set your goals. Your greatest responsibility to yourself, your family and your career is to invest whatever time is required to become totally clear about your dreams and goals and how you’re going to achieve them. But remember that a relatively small investment of time now will produce big payoffs as your dreams become reality.

Perhaps you’re hesitant to commit to your dreams and goals because deep down you don’t truly believe you can accomplish them. I will prove to you that you can.

Stop for a moment and think about some of your most significant life accomplishments, things that were once just dreams or thoughts in your mind. These could be such things as getting married, graduating from college, buying a home or getting a job in a certain profession. Perhaps your accomplishments include having children, buying a sports car, achieving a promotion or award, earning or saving a certain amount of money or taking a “dream” vacation.

Now, list five of your biggest accomplishments in the spaces below:

Dreams and Goals I’ve Already Accomplished in My Life

1.  __________________________________________________________

2.  __________________________________________________________

3.  __________________________________________________________

4.  __________________________________________________________

5.  __________________________________________________________

What do you think? Are you surprised at what you’ve accomplished? Most people tend to forget about or discount all the things they’ve achieved. I’d be willing to bet there was a point in time when you didn’t believe you could accomplish some of these things…but you did! You achieved them because you committed to them and focused on them until they became real. Listing these previous dreams and goals that you’ve accomplished opens your mind to the belief that you can accomplish the dreams and goals you set for your future.

But, if you’re still not convinced you can achieve your dreams and goals, I’m going to ask you to trust me and the literally thousands of people who’ve realized their dreams and goals by following the process shared in this book. These are people just like me and you – people who decided to take control of their lives, make a commitment, follow the steps, and are now living their dreams.

An ancient Chinese proverb says, “A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” Make that step today. Accept responsibility for your future and take control of your life. Make a commitment to utilize this personal achievement technology. Read the Personal Commitment statement on the following page, then sign it, date it, and start achieving your dreams!

Take Control of Your Life:

1. Accept responsibility for where you are and where you’re going;

2. List your five biggest accomplishments;

3. Make a commitment to follow the plan for personal achievement in The Dream Book.

My Personal Commitment

I make a commitment this day to take control of my life by setting my dreams and goals and working to accomplish them. I know that in order to achieve them, I must:

© Accept personal responsibility for my successes and failures;

© Discipline myself and follow the goal-setting pattern in this book;

© Know where I’m going by clearly stating my dreams and goals and writing

them down;

© Develop an action plan for achieving my dreams and goals;

© Visualize my dreams and goals daily;

© Maintain focus and be persistent;

© Grow personally and maintain the right mental attitude;

© Strive for excellence in all my efforts;

© Set new dreams and goals as I achieve those I’m working toward.

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This post is taken with permission from The Dream Book by Billy Cox. Please visit www.dreamit.tv to download the whole book.

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marj December 15, 2009 at 11:28 am

i like it so much… very informative… :)

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Nimia Acebes December 15, 2009 at 11:31 am

Thanks for your comments Marj!

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Garretot December 15, 2009 at 2:21 pm

Greatings, Yes, really. I agree with told all above.
Garretot

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Nimia Acebes December 15, 2009 at 2:33 pm

Thanks Garretot.

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Bob Bessette December 16, 2009 at 12:30 pm

Hi Nimia,
This is a great post, especially for this time of year when people are getting ready to make New Year’s resolutions. I really like the “My Personal Commitment” section. I am printing it out now…

Best,
Bob

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Nimia Acebes December 16, 2009 at 1:01 pm

Thank you very much Bob. I’m really proud to have a comment from a great blogger like you.

More blessings,

Nimia

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IRS_ua December 26, 2009 at 1:55 am

I want to quote your post in my blog. It can?
And you et an account on Twitter?

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Nimia Acebes December 27, 2009 at 3:37 am

Hello friend… yes you can quote my post in your blog. My twitter account is http://twitter.com/nimia_a

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olive g.p. "acctg-c.o." January 6, 2010 at 1:18 am

dear mam nimia,

thank you very much for sharing with us these wonderful write-ups…you’re such a blessing to everyone by doing that. more power, ma’am.

respectfully yours,

olive

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Nimia Acebes January 6, 2010 at 8:12 am

Thanks for your inspiring comments olive. I always pray that all your dreams and wishes come true. Luv u!

Sincerely,

Mam Nimia

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