I felt sad of the news that Jim Rohn died of pulmonary fibrosis last December 5, 2009. Jim Rohn is one of my favorite motivational authors and speakers. For eight years, I have been a subscriber to his newsletter and learned a lot from him. His ideas and teachings have helped make me a better person.
Pensively, I scanned and reread some of his articles, and the one on “Evaluating your Associations” has attracted me. This is because of the influence associations have in our life. People around us help mold our personality.
Jim Rohn wrote: “Indeed, the influence of those around us is so powerful! Many times we don’t even realize we’re being strongly affected because influences generally develop over an extended period of time.
Peer pressure is an especially powerful force because it is so subtle. If you’re around people who spend all they make, chances are excellent that you’ll spend all you make. If you are around people who go to more ball games than concerts, chances are excellent that you’ll do the same thing. If you are around people who don’t read, chances are excellent that you won’t read. People can keep nudging us off course a little at a time, until finally, we find ourselves asking, “How did I get here?” Those subtle influences need to be studied carefully if we really want our lives to turn out the way we’ve planned.”
Jim Rohn gave us these three key questions to ask ourselves to help us make better analysis of our current associations:
First Question: “Who am I around?” Make a mental note of the people with whom you most often associate. You’ve got to evaluate everybody who is able to influence you in any way.
Second question: “What are these associations doing to me?” That’s a major question to ask. What have they got me doing? What have they got me listening to? What have they got me reading? Where have they got me going? What do they have me thinking? How have they got me talking? How have they got me feeling? What have they got me saying? You’ve got to make a serious study of how others are influencing you, both negatively and positively.
Third question: “Is that okay?” Maybe everyone you associate with has been a positive, energizing influence. Then again, maybe there are some bad apples in the bunch. All I’m suggesting here is that you take a close and objective look. Everything is worth a second look, especially the power of influence. Both will take you somewhere, but only one will take you in the direction you need to go.
Jim Rohn further wrote:
“You’ve got to keep checking to find out whether your associations are tipping the scales toward the positive or toward the negative. Ignorance is never the best policy. Finding out is the best policy.
It’s easy to let influence shape our lives, to let associations determine our direction, to let pressures overwhelm us, and to let tides take us. The big question is: Are we letting ourselves become what we wish to become?”
Let us thank Mr. Jim Rohn for sharing with us this great article. Let us thank him for guiding us to the right path through his writings and teachings.
Jim fondly closed his programs with the following sentiments: “I go with you in all the experience that we’ve had. But I promise you this as we leave here: I will not leave you behind. I’ll take you with me in my thoughts and in my heart.”
Likewise, wherever he is, Jim Rohn is always in our thoughts and hearts.
Reproduced with permission from Jim Rohn’s Weekly E-zine. To subscribe, go to www.JimRohn.com